So we found out I'm pregnant few weeks before the adoption process started. We knew it will happen, but since adoption takes so long, we didn't want to postpone anything and start as soon as possible.
So what do you have to deal with when you're pregnant and adopting? Questions. Of course. You are now obligated to explain everyone, why you still want to adopt a baby when you have your own on the way. You have to explain everyone, why you are not cancelling the process. Or pretend to be mum.
Our SW did postpone few meetings, and when she was postponing the first one, she said: "You're not missing any time, since you can't send your application until your baby is one year old". We got into a slight argument, cause that was the first and most important thing I was checking with the agency, when I get pregnant, will we still be able to apply for adoption? They assured me yes. Then, when I got my positive test, I checked again, and again they assured me yes. In fact, by postponing we actually do lose time, the later we send it, the less time we will have between the birth of our baby and referral. Not that it matters too much with the China's superlong waiting times, but I'd like to call things the correct names.
So even if you are pregnant, you can still continue with the adoption process for sure !! We will have to follow the 12 monhts rule (there must be 12 months or more between getting last child into our household and referral) which we do not worry one bit. There will be about 4+ years at least (unless we will have second one before we go to China, and that remains open, we will have to think that through little)
If any of my readers has an experience with being pregnant and adopting a baby at the same time, you can leave me a comment, I'd love to hear from you !!!