We attended the first day of the seminar. I met some nice people from the last time and some new ones. The seminar is held in a nice church in Abbotsford. There were lots of things we learnt, but I'd like to mention two.
The first one was that we played a small game, you all know it, just switch the tables (and meet others) With a twist. We left our things behind and yeah, I did feel that unease of leaving my things and not taking them with me. Only then I realized what's the point of the game. The unknown the baby will be facing, and all the familiarity she will be leaving behind.
I seriously thought that we'll just fly her home, put her into her pretty bedroom and she will immediately like it. I am so glad that I realized, that she will not and that she will miss her orphanage for probably quite some time !! I am so glad I know this and I can prepare and do some more research(and mind you, I am doing TONS of research) and m so they we will be ready to face it and help her transition.
The second was a presentation by a very lovely lady and her adopted son Cole. He was from Thailand, and he spoke so openly about being adopted (he was only ten) He was the cutest child ever and you could seriously see, what a great job his mom did, the love for him, the apprecitation for the adoption itself, and the admiration for the culture her child came from. He was so cute that I had tears in my eyes, it was very moving. She said that he came to her family very well behaved at a very young age, even bowing when he wanted something, and that's just adorable.
We got a task to see how we will be dealing with the cultural differences and denial. My response was: we will not be asking the child to totally adjust to us. We will want to take some of her rituals and customs she will come with (she will have spent quite some time in the orphanage by the time we will be able to take her home) and implement them into our own lifes !!! We are so excited and can't wait !!